Long gone are the days when discussions on female pleasure took place behind closed doors. I vividly remember the first discussion I had about masturbation with my girlfriends; it entailed shameful whispers and timid glances. But today, the discussions have us sharing thoughts on the latest sex toys and techniques we enjoyed in the bedroom. Stigma and shame don’t shroud women anymore. They are empowered to take sexual pleasure into their own hands.
Did you know that there exists an orgasm gap between men and women, too? The Archives of Sexual Behaviour reveals that 95% of men orgasm in partnered sex as compared to a measly 65% for women. While reaching a climax shouldn’t always be a top priority, it’s essential to acknowledge that this difference exists.
Apart from the usual oral sex and penetration, there are a few techniques that help you inch closer to an orgasm, along with understanding your body better. These techniques can be explored all by yourself or with a sexual partner.
Pleasure techniques
- Edging
Everybody enjoys a little anticipation in their steamy moments. Edging uses anticipation and eagerness to increase the level of your stimulation. A popular technique that is enjoyed by all genders, edging is when you bring your body to almost climax and stop immediately after. What this does is elevate your feelings of pleasure over and over again. Edging also makes you increasingly aware of how your body responds to pleasure. The best part about this is that it can be done solo or with a partner, increasing intimacy.
- Angling
If you’re looking to spice things up with your partner in the bedroom, angling is a technique that will revolutionise the way your body orgasms. Angling uses specific positions of the body to climax. In this technique, the pelvis is lifted and placed in a position that enables the penis to reach certain spots. Angling requires soft cushions to be placed below the hips or on its side for best positioning.
- Shallowing
A great technique that can help women get accustomed to penetration is shallowing. It allows you to ease your vagina into penetration slowly and gently. In shallowing, the vagina is entered with just the tip of the penis in short strokes. There are over 10,000 nerve fibers at the clitoris, which is at the center of the vulva, causing stimulation. Shallowing results in stronger orgasms because of the targeted penetration.
However, this is a technique which can be done solo as well. You can slowly stimulate your vaginal opening with your fingers or even sex toys. Give your body the space to explore the sensitive areas of the vagina with shallowing.
- Pairing
A personal favorite technique of mine is pairing because my partner and I always believe in the power of toys. One orgasm is great, but two orgasms are even better. Pairing focuses on double stimulation-yes, the clitoris gets stimulated, and so does the vagina. Both of these spots have plenty of nerve openings, which, when stimulated together, lead to maximum pleasure. Use a suction vibrator that stimulates your clitoris while your partner penetrates you. Remember to understand each other’s rhythm and pace to find a flow that will result in an explosive orgasm.
- Orbiting
It’s no secret that most women require only clitoral stimulation to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm. The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy reveals that over 36.6% of women think clitoral stimulation is an absolute must for better pleasure. Orbiting uses this stimulation and makes it a little better to give you powerful clitoral orgasms. In this technique, a penis or a vibrating sex toy circles the clit and the areas surrounding it for sustained pleasure.
While all of these techniques are supposed to help you orgasm in different ways, always remember that climaxing isn’t the end goal. The objective of healthy sexual activities is always to understand your body and its sexual responses better. It should also result in a better understanding of your partner’s sexual desires. In that process, if your body chooses an orgasm, you’re lucky!
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